Week End

Friday night comes and I am sitting here at our local pub enjoying the buzz around me. I’m reminded that life has to be celebrated even in the most trying times.

The local pub’s DJ Booth

In case you are wondering – we are careful, we are mindful, and social distancing. It is good to see a semblance of normalcy even for a little bit. It has been a long week for me – work, writing, and trying to launch a small business. I need a short time away from my four walls. I love being in the midst of the bustle and camaraderie of the people around me.

Makes me forget about my doubts. One came last night – the thought of over sharing my life and exposing my vulnerability. The words were pouring out and I hesitated.

So I promised myself to take each day as it comes. When there are days that I can’t write, I need to stop fretting. The words will come like they always do. I am letting go of things that I cannot control.

So now it comes while I wait for our food. Not a nugget of wisdom to share – just enjoying a moment that life has to offer in simplicity. A fitting way to end the week that I want to share with all of you.

Enjoy the weekend ahead and enjoy the beauty around you.

Van Gogh’s sunflowers

Money Talk: Budgeting

It has been a whirl and we are just in the second week of the new year. The news is very depressing, and I am feeling a sense of déjà vu – is it 2020 all over again? I certainly hope not and to get my mind off these ominous thoughts, I worked on my financial goals for the year when I had the chance (which is usually after work or while I am eating lunch).

So let me take your mind off Covid for a moment and let us talk about money. It is always an exciting time to review where you want to be financially beginning of the year. I can share how I do my budgeting. Caveat: I am not a financial expert but will share what has worked for me over the years.

istock photo

For those whose goal is to be debt-free or just simply manage your finances, this is where you need to start. Budgeting is the key. There are tons of articles already written about this and you need to determine what works for you. Read Dave Ramsey’s 7 Baby Steps if you need help determining goals. It may take time, even years, but be patient. It took us years of practice mingled with frustration and curbing immediate gratification. We were finally debt-free in 2018 except for our mortgage and student loans which are main target now.

So how do I do it? I have a high-level monthly budget on my Excel sheet for every dollar earned and spent. I follow the Zero-Based Budget approach, which funny enough I just learned last week. I did not realize this is what I have been doing for years. Then I use Quicken to track my expenses, but I do it manually since I look ahead – far ahead.

snapshot of my budget categories

This year I want to be more intentional on where our income should go this year, so I created a 5-month forecast instead of my 2-month forecast. There is nothing special on the number, but I wanted to get a view before summer starts. I am overly optimistic that somehow this year is going to be better and will look more like our pre-pandemic years. I included vacation category in my budget so as a unit, we will be more careful about impulse buying on items we do not really need (meaning less trip to Costco!) as well as limit our dining out options (we are a big foodie group). I am robbing Peter on this account so Paul can save 😊. We have everything accounted for and we just need to stick to it as a family. If the vacation does not happen, then it will be a plus to my savings account.

Then I check Quicken at least once a week (in reality, 3x) and adjust, as necessary. Oftentimes there will be things that will come up, emergency or otherwise. Over the years I learned how not to fret and balance it with the YOLO phrase. Then I tell the family that next week or next month, we will not be doing this or that.

Budgeting is a work in progress and requires long term diligence to see effective results. If you have not already done so, try to work on a monthly budget to see where you are. It is the first step to achieving financial freedom. If you have questions, let me know where I can help.

I hope this post has been helpful. Drop me a comment if you would like to know more about our experience towards financial freedom.

The Hop and Skip Will Come Later

Someone asked me if I write poetry and made me think of the countless hours spent writing on my notebooks a long time ago. Another life and another person – an insecure budding writer that was so afraid, so unsure of her talent, and always thinking she could never measure up to her peers.

So, I want to share what I have written late last year for someone (not my immediate family) who is very dear to us. I hope one day I can tell her this in person and give her the love she so richly deserves.

The Hop and Skip Will Come Later – Vian Wheatley (Oct 2021)

I see your face with that charming smile of yours,

Yet there is a veiled shimmer in your eyes

Such a beautiful face does not deserve a tortured soul.

What lies underneath?

No one will ask – It is just another one of the many they scroll through each day.

The hurt lies underneath that You cloaked in your layers of filter.

You leave breadcrumbs here and there if they care to notice.

a hushed plea for someone to remove the burdens you carry.

I feel your pain and my eyes grow heavy

I want to stand in the gap for you and shed those burning tears that never fell

Because there can be a tomorrow that you richly deserve

– A smile. A gentle kiss.  A tight hug.

You are worth these and much more

no matter if you think differently.

Hope does spring eternal – you just need to hang on to that tiny sliver you have in your hand

Your story will change if you dare to believe

You need to just take that smallest step of courage.

I promise – The hop and the skip will come later.

Sunrise Surprise

Today looks so bright people! Were you able to see today’s sunrise? If not, here’s what mine looked like. Look at how the sun is peeking through the pink hues.. How beautiful!

If you woke up feeling discouraged or down, then I want to infect you with this unbridled enthusiasm I am feeling today. This year just feels different for me in a positive light despite what I read or see in the news. So today is a short post – just an encouragement to enjoy your day, try not to worry and feel the sun in your face. If not, remember that our joy always comes in the morning.

Stepping Out Series – New Year, New Visions.

The new year is here – wet and gray in this part of the world. A foreboding start or a cleansing of the past two years that the world has given us? You chose.

As for me, I am ready to start the new year with hopeful expectations. I eagerly started on my vision board this morning – remember I said yesterday how I thrilled I was? It is done! I just need my husband to help me put it up.

For 25 years, I have always jotted them down in my personal journal for my own privacy. It was a secret place for my prayer requests, dreams, goals, and aspirations so when they do not happen or if I failed, no one’s the wiser.

However, this year is vastly different for me. I cannot describe it, but I just know in my heart and my gut that 2022 is going to be a remarkable year for us and for everyone else. And prospectively, I am ready to vision cast and write them where I can see them daily.

Working on this vision board is quite cathartic – made me very intentional about how I want to move forward or where I want to spend my time and energy. I am now sharing all my vision, my goals, and dreams for my family to see (but not on this post yet). There are bold dreams on here that I wonder if they tell me they are very lofty, or will it inspire them to dream bigger as well?

What I can share is that for 2022, I am declaring it to be our Year of Harvest and that my Focus Word is Shine. My mantra remains the same – nothing is impossible to those who believe. These are powerful words that have guided me through the years.

So armed with my vision board, I am filled with great anticipation of what this year will bring us. I am hoping that you share my enthusiasm for the new year. Want to join me? Send me a message. Let us continue building our dreams.